Sex is NOT a big investment

Posted: April 28, 2014 in Uncategorized

A week into my SNL to LTR experiment. I’ve banged two beautiful women.

Some things I’ve learned:

  1. The chances of banging a girl SNL is much higher than banging a girl on future dates (chances of getting a date with that girl, etc).
  2. Banging the girl on D2, D3, D4…gives you a better chance of keeping her as an LTR (that also considers the fact she likes you enough for you to meet 3~4 times hence LTR happens naturally).
  3. The key is to determine whether the girl is flaky or not – if you think the girl will flake on you in future (check bloodtype, personality, response) – bang her right now instead of going for number close.
  4. Sex is NOT a woman’s biggest investment no more (rule applies more as girls get hotter).

Elaborating on POINT 4; its one of the Mystery Method PUA community assumptions that sex is a woman’s biggest investment. But I found that to false – and to assume so will seriously put you in a state of denial – and hence forth you’ll experience pain when you realize the girl is not that responsive after sex happens (and when you encounter more attractive women).

To be honest, sex is no big deal for women in this day and age. All the theories about “women carry risk of bearing baby without any provider” – theory, its old, caveman, and not that applicable in this day and age. Women all around the globe are more open with sex. Hot girls by the time they graduate high school have at least 5~10 guys she’s fucked. Another number on her list (you) won’t be such a big deal. To be honest, even if you’re able to fuck her once, you are nothing to her.

By assuming “sex is not that big a deal for a woman”, you will:

  • Continue to preserve and build attraction (game her) after sex because you know thats not enough to keep her in your orbit
  • Focus is to continually transform her into an LTR while you bang her

Fuck I’m sick so Im off to bed, more to cum!

The SNL to LTR Experiment

Posted: April 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

ASSUMPTION FOR EXPERIMENT:

This is for street game, not social circle game.

I will try the SNL (Single Night Lay) to LTR (Long Term Relationship) experiment for a couple of women.

  1. Given you want to turn the relationship into an LTR, should you or not, go for the SNL?
    - Timing (d2, d3…)
  2. Whats the most effective and damage-free method of turning an SNL into an LTR?
    - Mindset (needy/comfort/etc)
    - Consider ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) after sex
    - Alpha-Traits and Provider-Traits
  3. Should you have the perfect opportunity to F-Close a HB10 whom you’d like to keep, should you do it or delay sex for relationship?

Why SNL in the first place?

I don’t know how game is in the West. At least here in Japan, girls are flaky as hell. I’ve become extremely good at creating attraction before the number-close that my email response rate is around 80~90% (as compared to 20~30% when I started off).

So when you get that opportunity where the girl is willing to open her legs for you, where all you have to do is step your foot in (or you dick), you fucking go for it. How stupid can you be to turn down that opportunity?

In fact, you go on a date with her – that might be exactly the thing she’s expecting. She’s expecting you to sex her. And whats worse is – sex or no sex, there may NEVER be a D2 or a D3. She could have a BF, and she wanted a one-off orgasm. You never know – because you met her on the street. If it was social circle game – there’s no rush to go into an SNL – in fact I wouldn’t recommend it. But this is street game for fuck sakes.

However, there’s a question I’ve yet to solve:

Why should you NOT go for SNL?

At my current level, going for an SNL is piss easy. I don’t need to go on 2~3 dates to bang a girl. HOWEVER – in my past few cases where I’ve banged the girl on D1/D2, it was difficult to see those girls again. There’s a variety of reasons to that:

  • My Reasons: being needy after sex, not building enough comfort/deep attraction.
  • Hers: boyfriend, feels like slut after sex, etc.

In those couple of women I’ve banged on D1/D2, there were girls I would genuinely have loved to date. To deepen the relationship. Not just for continuous sex, but to go on trips together, go out on a drive, etc.

I blamed myself for banging them too early in the relationship (even though that may not be the only factor for my failure).

A socially adept and sane girl in a normal society (non-PUA) would believe (or would like to believe) in the following ideals:

  • Boy meets Girl within a social circle or through friends and go on a couple of dates to get to know each other. Boy generally pays for the dates, and takes her out to dinner. If Boy and Girl finds themselves compatible with each other, Boy will ask her to be his GF. If girl accepts, they continue to date, and after a few weeks/months, have sex.

A PUA or at least PUA Stealth thinks this way:

  • Boy meets Girl. Boy’s objective is to bang Girl. Boy determines logistics, and does whatever in the world he can (DHV, Negs, Comfort, etc) to have sex with her. If sex is good, and she is worth keeping, Boy builds comfort with Girl so she comes back for more sex.

The discrepancy in between these two scenarios may cause chaos in the relationship, which makes the girl think, “I’ll be a slut if I go back to have sex with him…I better not see him again”.

Sure, “attraction is not a choice” – but even if she’s immensely attracted to you, the will to preserve her integrity may be much higher. Given her social circle, friends – who have a much greater influence on her than you do.

That PUA adage, “if she’s attracted enough, she wouldn’t listen to her friends, she’d be under my control” – is something I found false through experience – in fact I think only novices have that idea imprinted in their heads. When you get rid of that “I’m a fucking PUA, and I control women like my dog” idea – you start to see things more rationally, and can make decisions accordingly – yielding much greater results.

Anyway, you should not go for an SNL because it’ll trigger her ASD after sex, and in order to preserve her integrity as someone who doesn’t sleep around, she won’t see you again. There’s no reason to see you again. Had you developed the relationship through 2~3 dates and asked her out before sex like normal people do – then she’ll be sure to come back for more knowing you’re her “official” boyfriend.

Improvisation

I presented two extreme views of why or why not to SNL.

At the end of the day, its about improvising the situation. You can tell if she’s that flaky type of girl who’s really hard to meet. I think for those girls, you need to SNL no matter what – because it might actually increase your chances of seeing her after the sex.

However girls whom you chilled out with in a cafe – knowing she’ll be there to stay – you can always delay sex, and build value so she’s in for the long-term.

The key is to DETERMINE and DECIDE whether to fuck her or not given the type of girl she is.

This is extremely difficult, and when you’re in set with a woman, you lose track of what she’s actually like. But that seriously is the only way to go about it. I think for the next couple of months, I’ll find answers to my questions.

But as a general rule of thumb – GO FOR THE SNL.

Deep Emotional Connection

Posted: April 8, 2014 in Uncategorized

To be honest, we all have to admit at some point in our PUA career – getting laid is piss easy.

I used to think of it as the most challenging thing in the world, until I was SNL’ing girl after girl.

You don’t need to build deep attraction to get punani. Seriously, all you need is to be able to LEAD and the PUSH at the right TIMING. Thats all. Easy for me to say – I’ve spent years trying to figure this out. But one day it just came to me – its difficult to simplify a complex idea – but once you can PLAY IT SIMPLE – thats when you realize you’ve achieved excellence. The same goes for sports, business, etc – Simplicity is Power.

Now, there’s a great wall of China in front of me called “building deep emotional connections”.

I can bang a girl. But to make her remember me as the “man whom I really connected with on a deeper level” and to make her say after years, “I really want to see him again, and experience those feelings” – that is MASTERY OF PUA. Thats when you can really call yourself a MASTER PUA. And thats exactly what I need to become.

Little Emotional Connection can still get you laid though

Completely true – you don’t need that deep level of connection to get pussy…once. But to continually have pussy come back to you endlessly without effort – that is ONLY established with emotional connections. At the back of our minds, we always feel more content, safer, and more relaxed with meeting people we know – people who we’ve shared an experience with. And with PUA, since you are moving things so quickly – the question then becomes – “how can you create that deep connection with the girl in the shortest period possible”. I believe its important to build it early on in the relationship – so it highers your chances for a D2, D3, and so on so forth.

Thinking back, perhaps the reason why I’ve had so many women fuck and dump me, is because I didn’t establish that connection with the woman. She didn’t wanna come back to see me any more. There’s several reasons to that – but really thinking back, I had sex before that emotional connection was made. On attraction alone. You need to work on COMFORT for ever-lasting sex. Seduction is seriously the easiest step in PUA (at least to me).

How do you build that deep emotional connection?

Simple – QUESTIONS AND FEEDBACK.

There’s routines to help out but they’re unnecessary. You simply ask questions that she associates strong emotions to, and build rapport by giving her a positive emotional feedback – and to show her you feel her pain, pleasure, joy, sadness, etc.

Example

Me: To come to where I am now, I had to go through a lot of shit, and some painful experiences. I mean, I see you as someone who’s more mature at your age, and even though you’re a positive girl, I’m sure there’s some things that you’ve gone through – ones which you’re still latching onto. Tell me, whats that one thing you regret most in your life.
Her: When I was in high school blah blah blah
Me: So tell me, how did that make you feel, what have you gained from that, what would you change from now on based on that experience, how does that make you feel, etc

[after response] Me: I completely feel you – being the genuine and honest girl that you are, it must have been really difficult making that decision. I think you really have some courage to have made that decision and I respect someone with that courage.

The question and feedback you’ve used really got you to dig deep into her mind and emotions. She’s shared (invested) that information she wouldn’t share with anyone else. She now trusts you more, she feels closer, and therefore feels more comfortable around you. Of course, putting her in that state of mind where she WANTS to share that information with you – is equally as important.

Solutions

From now onwards, after building that fluff attraction (which I’m ver good at), I’ll work on building COMFORT at a deep level. To really interact with her and get into her fucking mind. To make her share things about her she would never share with anyone else.

Resources

Deep Attraction Routine:

http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?p=319998

Building Rapport:

http://www.puatraining.com/blog/rapport-building-questions-how-to-build-extremely-deep-levels-of-rapport

Rapport Questions:

http://badgerhut.wordpress.com/2012/03/27/great-game-material-deep-rapport-questions-to-create-emotional-connection/

Stay Safe

Posted: March 24, 2014 in Uncategorized

Girl A: Sexy girl, amazing blow-jobs, 10+ past sexual partners
Girl B: Cute girl, virgin, can’t suck cock for shit

I would take Girl B any fucking day.

Until today, I was pulling my hair, fearing for my life waiting for my HIV results. I was even looking up treatments and life expectancies as if I’ve already gotten it. Fortunately, my test came out negative (gotta check a few months later again). But NEVER again, am I gonna put myself into that state where I’m worried sick to the point of going crazy.

How about statistics though?

0.01% of Japanese people have HIV. Out of that 0.01%, 60~80% are gay or bi-sexual. The rest are hetero – but foreigners (gaijins) take up a large proportion.

If you have hetero-sexual sex with an HIV positive person raw-dog, the chance of getting it for a man is around  0.1%. Its around 0.5% for a woman to get it from a HIV positive man.

Hence put all this shit together and do the maths – you’re more likely to die from a plane crash than getting HIV. (I think…)

But to be honest, who cares about statistics? How accurate are they? You could still be in that 0.0001% bracket. There’s men who’s caught HIV from heterosexual sex. That means there is that risk.

Its usually from negligent men who are fags, bi’s, or bang sex workers and passes it on to their girlfriends. Oh, and in Japan, the foreigners, and the sick STD-ridden Roppongi girls who goes clubbing to mate foreigners.

Statistics are bullshit when it comes to taking care of your own life. Think of it as being against your odds. Be extra-safe. Thats why you’ve got to determine the risks.

HIV Risk Group

High-Risk

  • Sex workers, Hostess, Foreigners (black/south-east asians), 10+ past sexual partners (incl. sex with bi-sexuals, foreigners), Age 20+, can bang without condom
  • DO NOT BANG – in fact, don’t even get close to them the second you know they’re whores. Yuk, ewww, fuck…

Mid-Risk

  • Normal girls (uni/working), 3~5 past sexual partners (profile ex’s), Age 18~above, lets you bang with no condom
  • You can bang them, BUT no blow-jobs, ALWAYS wear a condom, and NO SEX during their period

Low-Risk

  • Munchkins, up to 2 past sexual partners max (profile ex’s), Age ~20
  • Go ahead and bang them with a condom! Blow jobs? – Yes, but with high accuracy profiling (ex-bf from same age group, his ex-gf/etc).

No-Risk

  • Virgins
  • Congrats, Go RAWDOG!

Who to BANG?

Above is my extremely racist and biased Risk Rating for STD’s. I’m absolutely on the High-Risk group which is amusing. Except I come with proper paperwork.

Now, wouldn’t avoiding High-Risk girls limit the fun being a PUA?

No, it would make PUA funner, more challenging, and risk-free. The risk of getting unwanted children and diseases – isn’t worth all the fucking around. Plus, girls in the low-to-mid risk groups are easier to pickup, and are better for dating (why would you date a slut in the first place?).

Where to go from now?

I’ve had my fair share of SNL’s, d2 bangs, etc. I finally found out its all possible. I can pick up any girl successfully.

So now its about keeping the girls I bang. I think banging a hot girl once is piss easy. But its more of a challenge banging her multiple times over an extended period of time. Because thats where your value as a man is tested.

Its time for Relationship Game.

But as we all know, we gotta sample the goods before we sign the deal. So I’ll be banging girls in the mid-to-no risk groups (lower the better) – and when I get the chance, I’ll get into a relationship with them. Its time I experience getting settled and living with one punani.

Oh, and I’m quitting porn. Great pay, a place to stay, bonuses – it was all great. But I don’t need it to have the quality of life I have now. I have every potential to go and earn more. Plus get my own place to stay. Might negotiate a deal where I get the place free for some work where I’m not the one doing the fucking.

Anyway, I’m going to come clean from now on. I’m glad the time has finally come.

PUA, Happiness, and Numbers-Game

Posted: January 22, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

I was reading a post by a J-PUA kuroneko, “why I quit PUA“.

He talked about the concept of banging 100′s and 1000′s of girls as trivial – what do we get out of it? And the guilt he gets from lying to women about which girl he’s seeing, and breaking their hearts.

I currently think of PUA as more of a numbers game. How many hot girls can you bang…but gradually as I’m getting bored of banging new girls, I’ve found a new challenge – how many times can you bang a hot girl?

It sounds similar, but its a completely different challenge – and the latter is much more difficult than the former.

So I go around town searching for women, even number-closing ones I know I wouldn’t end up dating. And I bang them. And never end up seeing them again, unless I feel like banging them again. Whats the point?

When you build relationships, you build them vertically. You move horizontally and it becomes a numbers game – you’ll have a lot of low & flat buildings. But you ideally want a sky scraper. If one’s not enough, build another – but the challenge it to build vertically. Knowing a lot of people sounds good on surface level – but if you look deep into it, its bullshit.

I would rather date a really hot girl I love for 5yrs – go snowboarding together, eat really nice food, chill out in her house, and really share our love – rather than bang 500 hb7′s or whatever. Because at the end of those 500 bangs, you end up with nothing. A bunch of flat shitty buildings. There’s no point to it.

HOWEVER – banging different girls is an entertainment and hobby in itself. Meeting different girls, tasting the different cuisines of the world – is a beautiful thing. You know you might not be going in for seconds, but you get to travel the world, explore, and dig unfound grounds. Even though your relationships are shallow – you’re meeting enough that you don’t really have to worry about supply.

At the end of the day, its what you want, who you are, and the timing in your life. Broken up from a long relationship – go ahead and bang as many chicks as you physically can! Looking for a deep relationship with a single girl? Then go ahead and open the girls you really want – and be the provider.

The guilt-factor is a difficult topic. Some people get it, some people don’t. I believe I have a lot less empathy as compared to other people – when I lie, its not that I feel bad for the girl, but I feel worried about the lie being unrevealed.

At this point, I really wanna improve one thing in my game – to OPEN. I want to be able to open wherever I am, and do it right. To do this, I need to be frequently opening sets. I truly want a girlfriend I love and respect. A really cute one who’ll really appreciate who I am, and respect me back. Knowing how to handle the relationship, and meeting hundreds of women – I’ll bound to find a girl who’s right for me. I don’t mind playing the numbers game to some extent and building a bunch of flat buildings. But I don’t mind building a sky scraper neither.

I just gotta be enjoying the process, and its got to materialize. I’m sick and tired of the chase, I need to build a farm – where women chase me. To sum things up:

  • The number of girls you bang does not represent your level of success
  • What represents your success is how happy you are with the relationships you’re in with the girls, and how happy you are with what you’re doing.

Is Porn Healthy?

Posted: January 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

I fucking love porn. I’m probably addicted to it. I’m also a porn-star. I was wondering the effects of porn on PUA.

The Channel 4 documentary is surface level and extremely shitty. But the second video is extremely thoughtful because James Marshall goes through different reasons porn might be detrimental and the solutions we can take to revamp our sex lives and motivation to sarge.

Channel 4:

  • Younger people with Erectile Dysfunction these days
  • Porn becomes better than sex for some people
  • Porn (anal sex, deep throat, etc) becomes the standard which makes normal sex unexciting

James Marshall on Porn

  • Porn is like fast-food – you only feel full, but not satisfied
  • Mechanism that tricks your mind to thinking you’re getting sex (not satisfied, but relieved).
  • Many people have ED – could be due to porn
  • Training body to be aroused in condition where its not real sex (slouched watching screen with unusual body positioning)
  • Rapid ejaculation for the purpose of relieved is not healthy when it comes to real sex
  • If a guy is fantastic in BED – she’ll come back to HIM for YEARS
  • If you’re ejaculating all the time – you’re not hungry

PORN DIET – for sexual energy and sarging motivation

  1. For the next week, NO PORN!
  2. When masturbating – Close eyes and focus on physical sensation of touch
  3. Take time to blow load or don’t (tantrum – breathe in and think up)

  • Open: 185
  • NC: 15
  • Bounce: 3
  • D2: 2
  • D?: 2
  • FC: 2

What I had in mind for December was:

  • Be able to sarge alone
  • Open the sets I’m really interested in, and try my best to get her
  • Date/Bounce at least 5~6 girls a week (20/month)

Analysis

  • December 2013 is not even worth analyzing. Its bullshit, thats all I can say. And it shows how fucking horrid I am at sarging, opening, and keeping promises…Fuck.
  • 8% of sets I opened turned into NC
  • My D2′s were from the past so I can’t count them.
  • I bounced 3 sets, which is better than before, but pretty damn lame…

I don’t know what to say. I’m disappointed in myself. 8% NC rate? What the fuck is that?

Every morning as I did some warmups, I gave myself an excuse – I don’t need to NC her nor bounce her, its just practice. I’ll get good with some practice. NO! You get good through breaking through your fear and pain, and actually sealing the deal! Transitioning! Holy fuck…I’m quite pissed off at myself. 11 Numbers? Shit me, I could get 15 numbers in an hour. I should be getting 15 numbers a fucking day. This month was simply ridiculous and fucked up…

Credit for the bounces and dates though. I could have had 4 F-Closes had I played things smoothly.

As for January, even though I put less priority on PUA, I wanna open sets with an intention to close them. To push myself against the pain, and actually close them. I should be NC or Bouncing at least 20~30% of the sets I open. And that only happens when you PUSH YOURSELF! Whenever I’m in set, I will tell myself to OPEN, TRANSITION, NUMBER CLOSE OR BOUNCE HER!!! Thats the only way to get a step ahead in my journey. 15 numbers won’t get me any pussies.

10 numbers = 1 pussy. That means I need AT LEAST 50 numbers a month. That means putting a little more work and effort into the hour I commit to PUA.