I thought sex for women, was the biggest investment they could give to a man. I wouldn’t deny that statement, however I learned recently, “having sex once does not ensure sex in future”. I think the notion that “sex is a woman’s biggest investment” is over-rated. In this day and age, where women are having sex, and experimenting with various men, sex has become less of an investment. Having sex makes the woman attracted to the guy more – in general – but does not ensure future investment from her. And she knows, she’s still got the upper hand (if she knows you’re beta), because she can restrain sex from you in future.
Lets look at my 2 recent case-studies where I banged both girls, but both of them ended up being less attracted to me after sex happened.
This post serves the purpose of 1.Reviewing my case-study, 2.Analyzing my situation in depth, 3.Coming up with future solutions.
Case-Study 1: The DVD Girl
I met her several weeks ago in Tsutaya (rental DVD shop). She rented a DVD I recommended. A few weeks later, after trying to book in a date – which she was very receptive about – we made some time. And she came over. First, we went over to Starbucks and had some drinks (dutch). She told me she gets nervous when she first meets people – and I told her I’m the complete opposite – I get nervous afterwards even thought I’m good when I first meet people (which she genuinely believed). Calm conversation, I was being mature, and cocky funny at times. Then we decided we need to get her alcohol because she’s being extremely shy. So we went over and bought some material for a hot pot and went over to my place.
After she came over we both drank. Me being a weak drinker, was drunk in 10 minutes. I started laughing a lot, and hugging her – being all touchy – while she was being very calm and well, not drunk. I tried kissing her several times which she resisted, and I was being needy. But we went ahead, cooked some nabe, she drank a little more, and we got comfortable with each other.
Lying down besides each other, we kissed lightly and things started to get hot. I played with her tits, and I put her hand on my dick. She started getting all dominant and took my pants off, stroked, went down, and started sucking my cock. I was getting horny, and told her “I wanna put it in”. She was on her period, but she was compliant. Asked for a towel. We put it down on the bed, and I started banging her raw-dog. A lot of blood on my dick thats for sure!
Anyway, after the bang, we both took a shower and washed off the blood. Time was getting late, and I told her, “hey, you can always sleep over, your work is late tomorrow. Come on, stay over. Your choice, but you can always stay over” – as if I was desperate for her the sleep over. Also, in one of our conversations, I tried to push-pull – and told her “hey, you know what…actually I’m not going to tell you.” – she physically started grabbing me for a response, and looking the other way, in a desperate attempt I said, “okay okay, I was going to say xyz…” – and responded to her requests.
I walked her over to my station, and without any resistance, just said good bye and left.
Btw, she lent me her comic books.
Case-Study 2: The Munchkin
School festival – I open a set which my friend previously opened – and I saw a cute girl next to her (who was with her). I opened, patted her on the head, teasing her and treating her like a cute fury animal, and like a little sister. She was instantly attracted to me. She liked the way I looked, and we had a good vibe. While her friend was being picked up by another guy, I took her around the festival – we held hands, ate some pancakes (I paid), and then later took her to an isolated bench where I hugged her and tried to kiss her. I was a little needy – but quickly took her back to her friends place.
After the school festival, they were going home – but I asked her friend whether I could take the girl out – YES – and I took her on a date around Tokyo Tower and on the way back, kiss closed her. She asked me if I liked her – so in a desperate attempt to find a reason, told her, “you’re very honest, so I like you”. She was all into me. Extremely attracted. When we went back to the station, she didn’t wanna say goodbye, she was being resistant, but I let her go alpha-style. Anyway, this time around, I also told the girl I get nervous when the relationship gets deeper.
A week later we book a date, and she comes over to Shibuya. We have some sweets (dutch), and then I took her to my station to go see a nice view from a high building nearby. Then I walked her towards my home. She asked me “where are we going?” – I told her with some resistance – “I live around here, come over I’ve got nintendo wii, we’ll play some mario kart.”
After arriving, we talked for a bit, and we both started making out. Then she held onto my dick, started sucking it – and I told her “I wanna put it in.” Before going inside of her, we were conversing, and she thought I was a virgin who’s never had a girlfriend (I’m a porn-star for fuck sakes!). Could be due to my innocence I played, or because I was being myself – being all smiley and shit (she said she liked the fact I smiled a lot). She took off her panties, and I went inside her raw-dog. It was so tight I couldn’t get it in. Fuck, I loved the way she looked, she was so fucking cute, and I was banging a munchkin, what more could there be? I was smiling, kissing her, and when she told me, “I like you, please tell me you like me” – I responded, “I really like you”. I ended up cumming inside her mouth. I had that level of compliance (I thought).
After the sex, we lay around bed, I took photos of us together kissing and shit. And then I joked around “hey, your school is nearer to my house than it is to yours, would be funny if you would stay tonight and then go over to school tomorrow morning.” She thought about it, but decided against it. Then I appeared really disappointed to which she commented, “thats really scary” – as if I was being a little kid not getting what he wanted, as compared to my intended, “fuck, maybe to make him like me, I need to stay over at his place, I’m staying over!”. I over-comforted each other, and through action and words, showed her how much I liked her, and how much I liked kissing and hugger her, and how much I wanted her to stay. We made a future promise to do hot pot next time.
After she left, I sent her a photo of us kissing. A few days later we were still conversing, but she wasn’t responding as fast as usual. It was taking a long time. Then she stopped responding. So I left it for 24hrs, then I emailed again, she responded. But something was strange, I told her I wanted to talk over the phone – called her tonight. Usual conversation of how things are going – and then when I tried to book in a date with her, she told me – “I don’t wanna do the hot pot because I don’t wanna get fat…”. Then I suggested going for a drive, “its scary going into somebody else’s car you’ve never ridden”. Plus we went into the conversation of her thinking I was like a student in her age group – and I asked her “well, thats not really a good thing is it?” – to which she responded, “yeah…”. Fuck…I gave her some lame ass excuses afterwards. Then I told her, “well, be honest with me here. do you wanna meetup or not? I’ve got Thursday open.” – she responds – “ive got an exam, how about the week after…?”. Then I said, “I kind of wanna decide now”. She suddenly told me, “hey wait, I got something, I’ll call you back”. Its been 2hours and not a single phone call as I write this lame ass case-study. (also an added note: she admitted she was afraid of what I thought of her, because she wanted me to like her. I told her, “don’t be afraid, be yourself, I told you I like you already…YIKES!”)
In both situations, I showed a common trait:
- Being reluctant when the girl wanted to leave (letting her leave on her terms)
- Being extremely comfortable with the girl – smiling a lot while with her because I was really liking her
- Asking the girls to stay over (obviously because I wanted to be with them for a little longer)
- Overly needy (taking kissing photos and sending it to her, not wanted her to go home, desperately wanting to meet-up)
- Being overly-compliant to their requests (tell me you like me/tell me!)
- Smiling A LOT, cheeking the girl, nosing her, and doing the things you would do to a girl you’ve been for months.
The fundamental problem is not WHAT I did wrong. Its fundamentally my characteristics of being needy – and worse – portraying this to the girl without hiding it in the worst possible way. So first, I MUST think like an alpha-male. In every situation, SLOW DOWN, and think – what would an alpha-male do in this situation? And do exactly what the dominant alpha-male would do. It take a lot of thought and effort in the initial phase, but skipping through on it will ensure that the girls will NEVER come back for more.
If I were alpha in both cases, I would have been tempted to let them leave early when they were on their high point and being needy. I would’ve been cold and would not have smiled too often. I would have a more serious and genuine look on my face. Their requests, phww, what requests? No way they would get a response without first satisfying my needs. I would follow up after the sex to make sure they weren’t at least being fucked and dumped. But nothing more than that. I would quality, but I would quality without a smile – and the timing being on my terms.
I would be an asshole, a total jerk. I would be prepared to send them off to their homes even before sex happened. Because I’m not desperate for their sex, I’ve got a thousand more girls I can fuck. There would always be some discomfort – and the girls will always be worried of how I think of them. They know I’m judgmental, and I can get extremely cold, because I’m an alpha-male who gets what he desires. So they’ll always have some fear. They’ll always be a little afraid of me, they’ll be risk averse so that I don’t end up hating them and ditching them.
Always leave them on the tip of uncertainty. Never give them comfort. Be a fucking asshole. Thats the only way I will fucking change.
Case Study 1 and 2
As regards to Girl 1, I’ve got her comic books. Great. She can come and get them from me at my house. She doesn’t deserve a single word from me. If she wants it, come and get it. Otherwise, bye bye.
As regards to Girl 2, I’ve got a car, my own place, and a wicked lifestyle with lots of cool friends. She wants to enjoy part of that lifestyle, she needs to work on it. But I’m not offering no more. Its her choice to win me back. If she does respond tomorrow, I’ll respond when I want to. Maybe I won’t. But I won’t be warm nor will I be nice, because I’m an asshole, thats who I am.
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